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Motherhood: Month 6 + What You Really Need For 0-6 Month Olds

Another moth, another milestone. Yet, this one was by far the hardest. My sweet girl is 6 months old.

Time has seriously flown by and I can’t imagine life without her now. We took her on her second trip. It was a short weekend trip to LA, and she was just as much a champ as she was during her first flight experience. Ava is fully sitting up by herself and starting to waddle on a stomach. My guess is she’ll be crawling before we know it! She’s still sleeping in our room, but sleeps with in her pack-n-play with her Dockatot and LOVES it.

This month, I figured I’d do something a little different. If you saw my Insta story,  you knew I asked for y’alls advice. So without further ado, below are the top baby products for 0-6 months.

The whole reason I created TMB was to be a place of advice, encouragement, and parenting hacks. When I was pregnant, I googled everything about registries and it gave me a list similar to the one below.

Now, there is nothing wrong with that list, and if you still want to purchase all these items, great. But for me, this type of list stressed me out.  Of these million baby products I “needed,” there were a billion different options for each product type. It made me feel like I needed to get everything on it to be prepared. Ultimately, I was suckered into a list like this. I now have items, that I took out [to make her nursery look perfect], that now I can’t return. I’ve heard I should save them for the next baby in hopes they like the item, but ugh, I am not a hoarder so that’s really difficult for me.

 *News Flash* All your baby truly needs when they arrive is love, food, diapers, wipes, and a place to sleep. Everything else is great, but is extra.

Here is a list of my Top Baby Registry Products that we actually use. Hopefully this will be helpful to any of you who are preparing for your first little one, or even those of you who are looking at your friends’ registries at a total loss for what to buy them. Here’s the scoop:

CLOTHING & ACCESSORIES

Sleepers: Ava still lives in these! They are SO easy, espeically the ones with the zippers. We had some of the button up ones, but didn’t like them for these two reasons: 1. during the first couple weeks when you’re sleep deprived, the last thing you want to do is fuss with making sure the buttons are lined up, and 2. now that she’s gotten older and moving around, zippers are the fastest to get back up. We love these ones because of all the cute patterns.

Onesies: Again, there are many days where she just is in a onesie all day. I would avoid the all white ones and any light colored ones at all cost. I’m a victim of loving the whites and light pinks, so I live by the rule that if when she has a blow out, the outfit is going to be tossed. We don’t do laundry as much as some, so I’d recommend 2 packs of 5 would be just fine. I like these again for the cute patterns.

Pants: Five pairs of pants in colors to coordinate with the onesies will be perfectly fine. We bought so many pants/shirts that she never got the chance to wear.

Socks: I feel like I put Ava in the same 3-4 pairs all the time. We reuse socks between washes [bc they’re babies], but again, this is another thing we had so many of that are just packed away now.

BATH

Baby Towels & Washclothes: Since you give babies baths every 2-3 days, there’s no need for tons of towels. Again, this is something we re-use between washes. We love the hooded towels for a little extra warmth after bath time.

Baby bath tub: We use the Fisher Price one and love it so far! To dry it, all you have to do is hang it from your shower rod, super easy!

Baby lotion: We purchased this before Ava was born and are still on our first bottle. Babies are tiny, so one bottle will last  you a while. I would also recommend (if possible) getting travel size bottles to start out with. Every baby is different, so you’re better off getting smaller versions to see if it works with your baby.

Bath soap: Again, a little goes a long way. Another item we’re still on the first bottle with (at 6 months). Registering for just one bottle will last you quite a while!

GEAR

Car Seat/Travel System: We purchased this car seat and this stroller system. It was solely based off what I had seen other mama’s purchase recently. What I like about the car seat is that it’s super easy to get in and out of your car. Tip: For any moms-to-be, I recommend making sure your car seat will fit in your car before purchasing it. I found out through other parents that not all car seats do. The only thing I wish this one had was a textured handle. Ava loves having toys to play with in the car, and most toys fall down from here. For our stroller, this one was a little on the pricier side, but I do like how it unfolds with one button.

Pack N Play: We purchased this one. What I love about it is the infant bassinet converts into a napper as well. She still sleeps in our room in her Pack N Play, so you won’t see a crib on this list. Her room is upstairs and on the complete opposite side of our house, so I’d recommend this solution if you’re in the same situation as us. If your nursery is closer or your adamant about your child sleeping in their crib, then this is the crib we purchased. In all honesty, we still have yet to use it, so I can’t tell you whether we really like it or not.

Baby Carrier: We swear by this baby carrier. We originally got this for Sean and I bought a wrap for me, but to be honest, the wraps are special contraptions that I personally didn’t like. I didn’t feel like Ava was secure in them. It could have been me putting in on wrong, or just a placebo effect of the hooks and backpack straps on the Ergo. I used my wrap maybe 2-3 times and now she’s too big for it. I’m sure all parents will agree with me, a baby carrier is a lifesaver. Sometimes, all your baby wants is to be held and baby wearing helps them but still allows you to get things done. ALSO, it’s a great workout for mama’s!

DIAPERS & CHANGING

Changing Pad: I honestly never thought I would use this as much as I do. This has been a lifesaver either in the car or out in public, because I REFUSE to lay her directly down on the tables in the bathroom. What I also like about this one is the fact you can put a few diapers and wipes inside and carry it on your wrist.

Diapers: You can’t have too many. Plain and simple.

Wipes: Ditto.

FEEDING

This is an area that I think each mom needs to customize. All bottles, nipples, pacifiers are going to be different based of babies preference. I would recommend not opening these items until your baby is here and testing them out. You can exchange the ones not opened if you do so!

Disposable Nursing Pads: By far, one of my greatest purchases. The first couple days, it’s not too bad since your milk hasn’t came in. When you milk comes in, you will literally wake up in a puddle if you don’t have these on. I don’t necessarily wear them every night now, but I wore them underneath my nursing bras every night at first. These are also great if you have to go back to work and can’t pump as much as when you’re at home. It’s never happened to me, but I had a fear of soaking through my shirt.

Nursing Bras: I would get at least 3-4 of these. These are the ones I sleep in and these are the ones I wore underneath regular shirts.

Breast Pump: It’s most likely covered by insurance, so I would highly recommend getting one!

Breast Milk Storage Bags: (can’t have too many) – These are a must have for freezing milk for later! Just remember to change them out every 3 months to keep your milk fresh.

Burt Clothes: A 3 pack is just fine for us. Ava didn’t spit up much, and still doesn’t, so 3 does the trick. I use them mostly to wipe off her face after she eats now.

OTHER

Wubbanub: This has been Ava’s best friend since we came home from the hospital. Not going to go too much as I talk about it here and here.

Drift: This stuff smells heavenly! Perfect for washing all of babies clothes. They also have a stain remover here that you totally need as well for the many many poop and food stains.

Not necessary, but items I do love.

Owlet Monitor: Again, I rave about this here and here.

DockATot: I do a full review here, but I promise Ava has slept SO GOOD since we’ve put this in her pack n play.

Okay I think this covers most items and I really hope this was helpful to some of you! Mamas, is there anything you would add to the “must-have” section of this list? What about the “nice to have” part?

Family Lifestyle

To The Mom That Needs To Be Reminded How Awesome She Is

Last night it was 9:30 PM. My daughter and husband were both sound asleep [he didn’t feel good]. I woke up at 5:00 AM, worked all day, came home and went on a cleaning frenzy, hadn’t sat down once, TV on in the background yet hadn’t watched a single bit of it. I stood in my living room looking around at things that still needed to be cleaning & that’s when it hit me.

“I’m only one person. I’ve accomplished A LOT today. Who does laundry on a Monday? Who got their child to fall asleep (and stay asleep) after moving them to their bassinet? THIS MAMA DID.”

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel like superwomen everyday. But when I do, it feels pretty damn good. Motherhood can be hard some days. Mom guilt plays into this and can sometimes make it worse. I’m affected by it more than I’d like to admit. However, it was in that moment that I started to realize that I am being hard on myself. If you’re anything like me, you’re probably being hard on yourself too!

In fact, my house is never as clean as I want it to be, I have no idea what we’re having for dinner tonight, and I still have one string of Christmas lights [that I decided to wrap my tree with, but there are little twigs that scratched me when I was putting it up and I’m just not ready to fight that battle again]. Tangent: Can you cut Christmas lights with tree clippers?

BUT, the second I see my sweet girls face, that’s all that matters. Whether you’re a working mama, SAHM or WAHM (working at home mama), motherhood is more than diapers, cleaning, and laundry. Motherhood is endless snuggles, someone that loves you unconditionally, someone who can make you excited about poop if they’ve been constipated….yes, that’s a real thing for all of you that aren’t moms yet.

It’s time to stop being so hard on ourselves.

Here are a few quotes in case you are needing a little reminder that you are an awesome mama.

When it doubt, choose the kids. There will be plenty of time later to choose work – Anna Quindlen

We may not be perfect mothers, but we are perfect mothers for our children. 

If for a while the harder you try, the harder it gets, take heart. So it has been with the best people who have ever lived. – Jeffrey R. Holland

The days are long but the years are short.

Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for. – Neil L. Anderson

Motherhood is a choice you make every day to put someone else’s happiness and well being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is, and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong. – Donna Ball

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Motherhood: Month 5

I feel like I just wrote her last update, yet, now I sit here again writing about her fifth month. It’s CRAZY to think she will be 6 months old next month….cue all the feels.

I This has been a month full of changes, so I figured I’d share the Top 5 things from her fifth month.

  1. She started daycare. I discussed our reasons for starting daycare here. She seems to LOVE it. My favorite part is picking her up.  When I walk in the room, she is always playing in something, and I come up to her and say “hi, princess” and she looks up and gives me THE BIGGEST smile. Y’all, it melts my heart every. single. time. I’ll do an update on daycare some time in February on the do’s and don’ts we learned from our first month.
  2. She started solids. At our last Pediatrician appointment, she said she could start whenever she showed interest in food. She wasn’t really showing interest until about 2 weeks ago. We started with avocado, which has still been the only food shes tried, and she LOVES it. This girl loves food. I learned day 1 that this girl is just going to eat all her meals in the nude. SO messy and SO fun! I have this coming in to help me make her food and she uses these bibs. These bibs are so easy to clean and help catch any food that falls down.
  3.  She has TWO teeth coming in. I thought it was super early, but her Pedi said it can start as early as 4 months, which it definitely did. One thing I learned is that if your babies cheeks are flushed, and she’s not running a temperature, it could be the first signs of teething.  On, and ALL THE DROOL. Literally, for a couple weeks, this girl was going through 3-4 shirts a day if I didn’t put a bib on her. This teether is still her favorite.
  4. Her hair is starting to grow back. She didn’t full lose her hair, but it was shedding for a while. I think she’s going to have dark hair like her daddy. 🙂
  5. Last major highlight of Month 5, which is by far the biggest, is that she is sitting up! She gets super smiley when she does it. She’s had great support of her head for a while, so we just tried sitting her up one day by herself, and she sat there. We were in total shock, so tried it again, and sure enough, she did it again.

All these milestones are such big achievements and I’ll be so happy to look back one day that I documented this. I’ve heard a few people talk about this recently, and figured I’d put my two cents in. I feel this generation [and especially me] can really over think parenting. We have so much information at our fingertips [and ways to compare ourselves #hellosocialmedia] that it’s easy to second-guess every little move as a mom or comparing yourself to other women. But at the end of the day, if our baby is happy, healthy and fed…what on earth matters?! I think it’s wonderful that we are always evolving and educating, but at the point it interferes with our confidence as moms it must stop. So if you are a mama, I’m here to remind you that you are a great mama. You carried a little one (or ones), gave them life, and they love you more than you can imagine. They don’t care if you’re not at your pre-pregnancy weight, or if you have stretch marks, or if you feed them formula over breast milk. YOU ALL ARE INCREDIBLE. Thank you for reading along through her milestone. If you don’t have kids, but you’re just a sweet person that read this entire post, thank you for listening to me babble!

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Motherhood: Month 4

I feel like I say this every month, but another month has flown by and it’s been the best month yet! I’m a little late because we all had the flu, and her 4 month check-up was Wednesday, so I wanted to wait and get her stats before posting the update. Her personality is the best and she’s becoming more independent, yet still loves to be snuggled. Instead of answering questions for this monthly update I thought I’d talk about some of the highs & lows.

Highs:

  • She had her 4-month check up on Wednesday and is a perfectly healthy and thriving little girl! So praise God for that! She is still 60th percentile for height (like what?!) and 17% on weight.
  • Our Pediatrician said that Maxi can start on solids whenever we feel comfortable. She did an assessment of her and recommended we start between 4 and 6 months. I know each mama does things differently, so I won’t go into too much detail on that. Ava isn’t 100% curious about food just yet, so I’m going to wait until that curiosity spikes a bit more.
  • She has also started cooing (vowel sounds) which is really neat to hear her mimic. She also makes THE CUTEST bear sound. I don’t know how to describe it but watch my instastories because I record her doing it all the time.
  • Ava loves this. She has really been wanting to stand (early walker maybe?), so it’s been perfect. She’s not quite tall enough to play with the toys, so we’ve put this and this on top and she really enjoys it.

Lows:

  • Ava got sick for the first time. We started noticing it Christmas Eve Eve, and it was full blown by Christmas. Seeing your child sick is by far the saddest thing ever. We were able to see the Pediatrician the day after Christmas, and she told us it would take about a 10-14 days to go away. Luckily, at our appointment Wednesday, our Pedi said her lungs sounded really good and she should be back to normal in the next day or so. I used this, this, this and this while she was sick for any mamas needing advice.
  • At her check-up, on top of her shots, she had to get her blood drawn to see if she has an allergy. Did you know they draw blood on babies through their arm vein like an adult?! I didn’t know that and was shocked to see them trying to find her vein.
  • This last one isn’t really a low, but it just shows how fast time goes by. Ava is now in Size 2 diapers and wearing some 0-3 month clothes still, but we’re transitioning more to 3-6 month.

We have some major things happening during Month 5, so be sure to check back. Also, thank you so much for caring about Ava!

XOXO,