“I see you have created a tiny human. I, too, have done this.” – Me trying to make mom friends
^^But in reality, this is SO true.
As a mom, and a first time mom at that, you live in this freaky little world where you openly talk about blow outs and spit up, yet you don’t realize it until either one of two things happen: 1. your friends without kids look at you mildly horrified or 2. you have a woman shake their head any you know they’re thinking “YASSSSS, I get you.”
Also, being a first time mom can be intimidating because you compare yourself to other moms. They appear to have their ish together. More than once I’ve sent my daughter to daycare in her pajamas, questioning if they were the same pajamas she wore the day before. More than once I’ve forgotten diapers when we were out, only to realize it during the worst possible situations.
And guess what, it won’t be my last. And guess what, the sweetest response from some of my newest friends have me “me too.” This parenting thing is the best thing to ever happen to me, but also the hardest. You can read all of the books, but nothing will prepare you for the first time you and your baby go out solo, and the hormones are rushing, and you can’t get the car seat out of the base, so you just start crying. Nothing will prepare you for the first blow out that literally goes through the entire car seat.
One of my sweetest friends started out as the photographer we wanted to use for our announcement photos. She asked what the photo shoot was for, and we were at the point where we were hesitate to announce, but I knew I couldn’t just say “uhhh, a photo shoot where a baby balloon might show up in a picture.” As soon as I told her, I she revealed her precious news to me as well and our friendship has just grown since. One of the best parts about having mom friends is getting to talk about your babies. Lets be honest, *most* of us don’t want friends to go out with and leave our kids with babysitters, we want friends we can have baby play dates, we want talk about our babies and share the most mildly gross but hilariously stories, and we want to talk about mom things.
The same friend ^^ also just created a mom group where we’re setting play dates to all hang out and meet other moms. I truly can’t wait for our first meet up! If you’re in Houston, let me know! If you’re not and you have the time, I encourage you to start a group. You never know who you’ll meet and how they’ll affect your life!
So the next time you see a mom, whether at day care, at church, or just a Target that’s been in your situation, just go over and say “me too.” She’s not the only one dropping balls. We are all dropping balls all over the place. And we’re picking them up together.